Carey Hardy, Senior Pastor at Twin City Baptist, in Winston-Salem, NC, gave a seminar a couple of years ago at the Shepherds' Conference on
How to Raise a Pharisee, which contains a number of helpful reminders of what not to do as a parent:
- Majoring on external instead of internal issues
- Excessive control
- Overreacting to failure
- Being unforgiving and impatient
- Elevating preference over biblical principle
- Unnecessary separatism
- Judging others…other families
- Being “belligerent”—a fighter
- Favoritism
- No humor
- Building up their self-esteem
- Lack of genuine spirituality
Read
the whole thing for explanation/elaboration.