"Make sure your marriage relationship continues to thrive after the arrival of children. One way of doing this is to cultivate from an early age the idea of what we call "healthy neglect." In other words, build into the day some time when the child is left to his or her own devices, doing something of his or her own choosing or even doing nothing. Children spend far too little time lying on the grass staring at the sky these days. They might learn something (Psalm 8:3,4)."
Ann Benton, Aren't They Lovely When They're Asleep? Lessons in Unsentimental Parenting, p. 37.